Lessons About Love
Casey: [00:00:00] Hi there. Welcome back. It's Casey here and this is the Purpose Map podcast. Thank you for being here always. I so appreciate you tuning in, supporting this podcast, supporting the messages that I share, that my guests share, and just being along for the journey. I appreciate you so much today. I. Think that I am going to share a little bit about some lessons around love Before I do, I recently received a direct message on Instagram from an incredible human in this community, a supporter of me, a former client, a just like beautiful soul, and she shared with me that whenever I just turn on a mic and record an intuition LED podcast.
That [00:01:00] it feels like the exact right message for her at that time. And so because of this and because of inspiration that has been bubbling up in my world, in my being, I have decided to do something similar today. Turn on the mic, see what wants to come through. The thing that I am aware of is a general theme or topic, and that has to do with love.
So thank you for being here. Let's see what wants to be shared about love? Why? Why does it want to be shared? Why does this topic of love want space to be? Well, I think it wants to be talked about because it is a massive part of my purpose. It blows my mind time and time again. [00:02:00] How at the root of it all for me is this core.
Mm, commitment to. Being a vessel of love and creating more unconditional love in the world. And that sounds like big, actually, as I speak about it, it sounds like a massive mission and purpose and you know what it is. I was just about to downplay that. Um, because I'm human and what's true is that it is, and it has driven me.
In everything that I do for quite some time. You may have heard my story about my first spiritual awakening when I was 25 at a silent retreat in Indonesia. If you haven't yet heard that story, I speak about it in one of the really early episodes. I'll link it up in the show notes this moment where, Through deep [00:03:00] contemplation and silence and embodiment and just, I guess asking the question about my dharma, my purpose, I experienced a profound inner awakening and at that time, 25 years old, you know, I'm gonna be 35, uh, this year, so that was a decade ago.
I. Just really had this experience in a deep and meaningful way that what I'm actually here for is love. And it was the first time that I felt it in my bones, this undeniable truth, this deep knowing, this physical experience, that the reason that I'm here is for love and. You know, sometimes I wonder is that everyone's purpose?
[00:04:00] Like I kind of think it is at the core of it, and most certainly it is mine. So what I'm fascinated by is how things have evolved since that time and how my relationship with love and my understanding of love and my connection with that as an energy source has shifted and changed. At that time when I was 25, I almost got what would love do tattooed on my arm, and I paused because I don't know, I still am without any tattoos, but it really became a guiding question for me after that experience.
It was the thing that made me. Start my business in the first place and, um, lean into what, I don't even, I don't know if I fully realized it at the time, but lean into [00:05:00] basically a, a self-love journey and also doing my best to create spaces for others to experience self-love. And it was fascinating when.
Things shifted in my life and in my work, and when I let go of being a dietician and moved into the coaching space and into the purpose space, purpose coaching in particular, while weaving, embodiment wisdom and embodiment guidance throughout that work, how, how accessing and embodying and bringing love into spaces remained so important.
And it's, it's really interesting to me, like talking about love is really interesting to me because it's my job to put words to things and putting words to the energy of love [00:06:00] feels like it cheapens it. And yet here I am doing it anyway because some part of my inspiration has asked me to. When I found out in, I think 2018 when I discovered human design and, you know, first found out I'm a mental projector and learned so much about that, went down the human design rabbit hole.
Um, it, it, it was a little bit before I. Understood what my incarnation cross was in human design. Just meaning I didn't really look at it. I didn't look at it at the beginning. I was so focused on learning how to use my energy in a way that was aligned that I didn't realize that one aspect of human design was really about your purpose.
In other words, the incarnation cross and, and when I first learned that my design, my incarnation cross. Is the right angle cross of the vessel of love. [00:07:00] It brought me to tears because I already knew it. I already experienced that through that first spiritual awakening and that embodied experience into my truth.
But it kind of blew my mind that there's this system that then validated so many of the things that I knew and, and validated my body's path towards my truth with a, a whole set of language, you know, a whole new system, meaning-making system that, um, just validated it all. And it's interesting, I think, I think this.
I think intuition is tapping me on the shoulder to speak about love because I am being initiated into an expansive space around love. I feel like I'm being initiated to know love in a way bigger way. [00:08:00] And, and also, you know, synchronicity synchronistically. I'm also in the middle of facilitating our Let Your Buddy Lead Facilitator training, and we're in the, the module about coaching skills and one of the coaching skills, coaching skills, life skills, heart skills that we've been deep in discussion around and in practice with is the skill of, of holding space with loving presence and.
You know, channeling unconditional love. And when I think about or feel into or set the intention to bring unconditional love into a space, I actually wanna make this really practical. I close my eyes and I breathe and I clear my energy field, and I do that through visualization sometimes through using the visual of the big gold sun that's pouring into my body and clearing up, taking with it anything that's [00:09:00] not mine.
Anything that's not in highest service of love. Clearing up any, uh, dense energies, any energy that doesn't belong in my field. So I enter into this clearing practice where I breathe. I might do a visualization. I'll ask for my energy field to be cleared, and then I connect in with the space of my heart.
And I set the intention to bring loving presence into a space unconditionally loving. Presence. Conditional love is when you're loving in order to get something back. You know, and I think there's sneaky ways in which I've done that in the past and probably continue to do. You know, I'm well aware that patterns take a long time to heal.
So for me, having a codependent pattern as a sensitive child, Has meant that I would give love, and I [00:10:00] almost wanna say love in quotes, like I would give or be generous or care either to keep the peace, in other words, I get something in return or to, um, basically try And I guess this aligns with keeping the peace to basically reduce the discomfort that I felt in my body through being sensitive and empathic.
Or to feel valuable and worthy through getting validation for what I gave. That's conditional love. The love is conditional upon receiving something back in my case. In those moments, I would know that I had given conditional love, love by my feeling of resentment or bitterness. In the moments where I felt like I didn't receive anything in return, that's conditional love.
Unconditional love is the energy of a, in my experience, high level of [00:11:00] consciousness. And I say in my experience, I had this little like moment of humility where it's like, who the hell am I to talk about love? Like the actual energy of unconditional love. I think there's a mysteriousness to it. To me, it has a god-like force energy to it.
It is divine. It brings me to tears. It brings me to my knees. The energy of unconditional love can hold everything, everything, discomfort, pain, conflict, uh, tumultuousness grief, despair, the burning down of one system. I guess what I've been learning through my initiations and love is that what it actually means for my heart to widen and my energy field to expand and my love to grow is to feel the depths of loss to grieve.
The suffering of [00:12:00] people of humanity, and also to experience an epic amount of blissful joy and to not judge a fucking thing as right or wrong or good or bad, like from a place, a consciousness of unconditional love. Everything belongs and. I'm also human. I also, uh, sometimes struggle with embodying that and also it's my intention to do so and it's my practice to do so.
It has been my practice to do so perhaps since before I was even born, perhaps since I was a child, but certainly since I was aware that my purpose on this planet is love.
I had a facial today and I love my, my gal, my [00:13:00] lady who does my facials. I stumbled upon the, the skincare path, um, kind of randomly, and yet it feels like a synchronistic part of my path and part of the path to self-love. Um, But I was laying there while she was. Putting the first, I don't even know what she does.
She was putting something on my skin and we somehow just dropped into a conversation of unconditional love and I got kind of emotional and I just like said like, yeah, this is what I teach. Like this is actually what all of it's all about is like, it's unfortunate that. That experiencing love sharing unconditional love needs to be taught.
And maybe it doesn't, I don't know. But to, to be able to be in conversation around what it actually means to hold space with loving presence and to be a vessel for love to come through. Like I genuinely believe that if us as [00:14:00] healing, helping professionals, you know, coaches, guides, therapists, Not even just like beings in the world who work with other humans.
So I think that incorporates all of us. If we just had the intention, just as if it's a small thing, if we set the intention to bring unconditional love into a space and didn't do a single thing more, how much healing would that bring? How much would that offer? You know, I think about the coaching skills that.
I teach and help others learn to facilitate in the let your body Lead facilitator training and, and the embodiment practices. And we take the wisdom from ancient practices and the current science to be really embodied leaders, epic facilitators. If, if I stripped it all back to the absolute essentials, it would be.
Learning how to fill a space with [00:15:00] unconditional love, learning how to approach others from a place of non-judgment. And it's easier said than done, but also, and also can be learned and is a practice. And you know, the beings who are in my world, my closest friends, who are also here to facilitate something different on the planet.
When we strip away everything we do and get down to the core of it, it's about creating more love, which inherently has the essence of unity and connection to it, rather than separation, which I speak about a lot on this podcast.
Oh, one of the things that I'm learning right now, About unconditional love. Ooh, [00:16:00] I don't know if you can hear that thunder, but it feels perfectly timed. A big bang in the background. The might, might not have picked it up. Um, one of the things that I'm reminding myself about unconditional love or that I'm learning, or that I'm being initiated into remembering is that that unconditional love includes me not to leave myself out of it.
Sometimes it's easier for me to hold space for others and. You know, acknowledge and validate their experiences and love them like fucking deeply. Even if I don't like them, even if I don't like what they're saying, I can love them and what I'm learning is that, right? Right, right. Sometimes I do that at the expense of myself, and that doesn't, that's not it.
Unconditional love can hold it all. So what does it mean to be unconditionally loving to myself? To be unconditionally loving to myself is to [00:17:00] have grace towards the parts of me that gross me out. You know, to create space around challenging sensations in my body. Sometimes it's to express a need or set a boundary or a standard, you know.
This is all complicated stuff. Like I think sometimes we think that to love that there's sort of like a boundaries is like counter to that and I don't think that it is.
I think we as humans have the capacity to love really fucking big. To love beyond, uh, the systems that we find ourselves in to love beyond competition, [00:18:00] to just be love. And
I don't know, I think maybe, uh, a spiritual practice is required to be able to like, drop into that. Hmm. I am just hearing what I just said and contemplating that a spiritual practice is a spiritual practice required to unconditionally love. It is for me, it is for me. For me, unconditional love is pulling divinity down from the sky and through my body and into a space.
To access unconditional love is to access a level of consciousness that is everything. That is all. And to me, that is God. To me, unconditional love is creative expression. [00:19:00] I said to a friend on the weekend, like, I'm gonna wear lipstick for God's sake. And then I thought to myself, yeah, like, for God's sake, why not have fun in this physical body?
For me, unconditional love is wearing lipstick for God's sake. It's also being hurt by another and offering that person grace. It's constantly tapping into this experience of what might that human have gone through to be having this type of experience right now rather than automatically judging it.
It's also creating space for anger. Seeing the sacredness in emotions that maybe we're taught to stuff down or not express. Gosh, I think as a society we're kind of taught to stuff down and not express [00:20:00] emotions in general, let alone, let alone difficult ones.
What does unconditional love mean to you? What's your relationship with it? What comes up for you hearing this? Like what parts are triggering, what parts feel like bomb? I'm thinking about, I. That Dear Human who sent me the direct message and I'm, this is for you. Thank you for the inspiration. I'm curious what's coming up for you specifically as you listen to this.
How could, setting a simple intention to be 1% more unconditionally loving, [00:21:00] how could that change the situation that you're currently finding yourself in? And again, when I'm talking about unconditional love, it's beyond romantic love. It's beyond conditional love. It's beyond giving, expecting something in return, whether you're conscious of it or not.
It's beyond what would it mean to bring a little bit more or a lot more unconditional love? Into your current circumstance, whether that's a circumstance with yourself, a relationship with yourself, an experience of your own health, let's say, whether that's in a, you know, physical relationship, a friendship, a partnership.
I don't know, someone you work with, a spouse, a lover. What would it [00:22:00] mean to bring unconditional love? Into your workplace, into your leadership, into your expression, into your creativity, into your journey of self-actualization. Where is the role of unconditional love? I am gonna pull us a card. I'm using a deck called Path of the Soul, and this is a deck that was specifically purchased for our Let Your Buddy Lead Facilitator training this year.
Each of the participants were sent a card in the mail to guide their journey. And I have a sense that there's a message that wants to come through. This deck may be connected to love, and I trust that if you're listening to this, there may be something that is for you in this reading.
Um, [00:23:00] What message wants to come through connected to this topic of unconditional love?
Hmm. If you're into numerology, the card number is three. This particular deck has, um, kind of like a psychedelic image on each card and a number, so very simple. And then the guidebook has a reading. Card number three is about awakening. This card expresses creative energy and self-empowerment. It signifies a deeper inner awakening to previously unseen inner abilities, powers, and gifts.
There's a strong spiritual and creative force rising within you. Rise to the call, feel your own strength, and utilize the many gifts you possess. Empower others. With your strong leadership qualities and ability to find [00:24:00] creative solutions, allow yourself to shine. It is time to share your strengths and gifts with the world.
Maybe it's time to share your unconditional love with the world too.
All right, I'm just gonna take a moment and a deep breath and see if there's anything else that wants to come through before I turn off the mic.
Hmm. I love you. I love you. I love you.
I used to think when strangers, I didn't know. So maybe that's you listening to this podcast. Maybe I'm a stranger to you. Maybe I'm someone you actually know. I. When strangers I didn't know, said that to me, I would like brace myself and, and like push that away. Strangers being, say someone [00:25:00] on a podcast or in a, in a Zoom room with like a hundred people in the space, it's like I couldn't receive it.
I would push it away. And now it's like, what if that's true? Like what if that's true? You know, listener right now. What if it's true? What if it's possible that I could love you a higher level of love and unconditional love, and what would it mean to actually receive that?
That's all for today. So much love to you, and I'll chat with you soon. Bye for now.